"If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all" Did your parents ever tell you this? Mine did...and I thought it was just one of those 'parent' things. But, if you think about it..it is a truth, and a pretty heavy truth at that.
Words are powerful, how many times has someone said something to you and you took it to heart? Whether it was a "Good Job" or "Boy are you stupid!" These can cause real feelings to be generated by the recipient. Like me, you can probably bring several to mind without even trying. And they are all probably negative! That's because we embrace those words that mirror what we think of ourselves. And we all have negative self images, we are bombarded day in and day out about how if only we bought this or that we would be better, taller, thinner, etc...
The place to start is with your internal voice, stop the negative talk about yourself! Start replacing it with positives. You may want to lose weight, well then, don't see what you haven't lost yet...see what you have lost. How your clothes fit better, how slimmer your face looks and so on. You can do this with any subject....make a list of positives and when ever the negative voice starts...say yes, but I am doing this or that and I am improving beyond all measure. Take it one moment at at time and build from there.
What you send out, you get back..so send out kindness, gratitude, forgiveness, love, support, etc...think about what you would like to hear from others and go out of your way to say it to those you meet each day. It WILL come back to you threefold!
Remember to be kind to yourself and be kind to others!